Major Update Part Two

...be sure to read part one first!!

Okay so I left off right about the time I posted my November 19th post. That was the post that I really wanted to be the one announcing we would be living together again. Although all the changes were still looming, the fact that they were NOT happening just made me more and more despondent and desperate. As you can guess, that following Friday turned out to be just as disappointing as the others, and my desperation grew. Richard went camping that weekend, so I didn't talk to him at all for five days. That Sunday I went out with friends and I told a new acquaitance my story about all of this. I got the typical response of "wow, that sucks. I could neeeeeever do that. How do you do it?" Usually these responses slide off of my back. But not this time. This time I thought, 'this does suck. This really, really sucks. And I am FED UP!'

And I was truly fed up. So when Richard finally got home on Sunday night, he excitedly called me. We have never gone that long without some form of communication, and he was looking forward to telling me all of his stories. So when he called, I told him that I did not want to talk to him. I had nothing to say. I was sad and depressed and he hated talking to me when I felt that way, so I decided it was best that we not talk. Not surprisingly, he was worried by this. He insisted we talk. He asked what I was upset about and I answered "everything!" I was upset by my job, by our relationship. I was fed up of being long-distance, I was angry we didn't have a plan, I was hurt that he didn't seem bothered at all by any of it. I was also hurt that he didn't seem more amenable to coming up with a solution, even if that solution included him supporting me financially for a bit. So he asked, 'what do you want to do?' And I answered, 'I want to quit my job, and I want to move.' He replied, 'lets just wait for Hawaii.' And I said, 'we have been for two months now. If we keep waiting for Hawaii to come through, we will be having this same conversation this time next year, if we are still together.' I think this response jostled him a bit. So after a lengthy deliberation, we agreed the time had come. I resigned the next day, Monday November 23rd. My last day of employment would be Thursday, December 17th, 2009.

The following weeks were simply overwhelming. I was very busy at work. I was very busy trying to piece some sort of plan together. I put in notice on my apartment. Richard and I continued to live in uncertainty about Hawaii. But we did know that we were going to be together again. When we saw each other again the first weekend of December, it was amazing. All the pressure was gone. We were able to just enjoy being together, and we did just that.

And finally, on December 14th, we received the official relocation package letter. I continued to be hesitant to post any updates because nothing was booked, and we still do not have flights booked and we should be there on January 18th. But I have faith that it will all come together. So at some point, in the next two to three weeks, we will be on a jet plane heading for a new life together.

Since December 14th, I had my last day of work on December 17th. I spent a great weekend surrounded by great friends. I did a lot of moving preparation. We spent Christmas together. We talked more about our level of commitment and agreed that we are life partners. No more boyfriend/girlfriend labels. It doesn't do what we have between us justice. And on January 4th I left Northern California behind. I am currently sitting in a coffee shop in Long Beach, CA enjoying the beautiful sunshine and the absence of the tremendous amount of stress my job and the distance caused. It has only been a couple of days, but I sleep like a log and I don't have the aches and pains I grew so accustomed to. We have a whole new ball of stress waiting with the relocation, but we will get through it together. Like we have everything else over the past 7.5 years.

So with that, I think this brings an end to the LDR blog. But I enjoy writing and will need a forum to update everyone about the stress of readjusting to no-distance coupledom, unemployment, job searching and the rough life of living on a tropical island. We have already had disagreements about money and our pet rabbit, so it should get interesting! So thoughts about a new theme/title will be welcome. So with that, I bid you all Aloha! Thanks for reading.